So what is the best way to handle setbacks and life events that happen to throw you off centre?

1. Don’t beat yourself up! - so many of us are kind to others and brutal on ourselves. If we are moving forwards we must expect challenges because that is when growth happens.

2. Go into neutral – we have inbuilt coping mechanisms. Ever noticed how your mind can go almost numb and you feel a bit spacey when stress happens? When you are going through something, it is not the best time to be objective. Allow yourself time to adjust and keep functioning as best you can. You will get through it even though it may not seem like it at the time.

3. Flow with the current – If someone is drowning it is impossible to save them if they are resisting. Solutions always come more readily if you stay as calm as reasonably possible.

4. Re-evaluate – when you are ready, and things have calmed down take some time out to reassess the situation and revisit your desires and goals. We aim for things for all sorts of reasons and there are times when we don’t need to do something anymore and move on.

5. Hit the refresh button – find ways to bring new flow into your life. Allow yourself to do something new or spontaneous. Make a new decision based on the insight you have gained.

Realising that there is a right time for everything, helps us not to stress too much over where we are on our journey, and encourages us to be less judgmental on ourselves and others. I find this particularly when working with my clients. Sometimes someone will come with a specific problem and the work we get down to is actually something different. We know deep down what we are ready to tackle and sometimes hypnosis helps us get to the reality of that. Learning to ‘breathe’ and just ‘be’ is also extremely important as there is so much in life to experience and enjoy!

If you have any comments or would like further information, I would be pleased to hear from you. Anything written is always based on true life experience.

Helen Bright Dip Clin Hyp, PNLP, Lifecoach & Trainer
http:www.helenbright.co.uk
+44(0)207 278 7877
07809 827828

© July 2008

If you can see yourself doing it brilliantly, ingeniously, the best you could ever do it, then that triggers a shift in your thinking.

Visualisation is a common concept in Personal Development. I find that it only really works for me when I not only visualise myself doing it, but doing it in style. In this way I delight in what I am imagining and it gets me excited. This energy catapults my thinking into a new sphere where I am totally motivated to do it just like that, as I know I can. I have seen it.

Visualise the best possible outcome for you in that situation. Remember, in any given moment, anything is possible as you have total control.

What I found, as I began to visualise, was that at first I could only imagine small positive possible outcomes. My mind had not yet warmed up. After liking a particular outcome, I was able to stretch my mental muscles further and dream up new outcomes that drove me wild with excitement. I let my imagination run away with me and I conjured up an amazing sequence of events.

It’s like a motor racing driver, going over the bends and turns in his head, imagining gear changes and getting himself mentally ready for the performance of his life. Before he steps in to the car he has seen himself win many times.

The beauty of this method, is that you can do it whenever you have a quiet moment. You may find it easier to write it all down, as you imagine. That way you can go over it again easily and add to it, making the vision even more real and adventurous. It could be invaluable before going to an interview or on a date, or before attempting to “chat up” a stunningly beautiful woman or man that previously you were in awe of.

Each time you visualise, and taste and feel, you are strengthening your belief that you can do it that way. You realise you are more than capable and that you have already done it. Think of it as a simulation, like in the film “The Matrix”. You can take as long as you like to get it perfect. You could even look in the mirror to hone your performance to perfection.

Now that I have completed an intense visualisation, I look forward to my best possible outcome with relish and total confidence.

Warmest wishes,

Dan

When things are going well, or even acceptably, it is often difficult to spot the opportunities for improvement. This is true for us as individuals, it is true for us in business and it is also true for us as societies.

It takes a very special character to continually move on. To continually reinvent their character or business, when there is nothing wrong. We even have an expression to reinforce this, “if it ain’t broke don’t fix it.”

The consequence of this is that as individuals, organisations and as whole societies we generally wait until there is a crisis before we make the changes that improve our lives.

So, if we are reluctant to maintain the pressure for continual improvement, the other option is to embrace crisis as a catalyst for improvement. Whatever the crisis and at whatever level it is just an opportunity to change, develop, evolve and improve.

For example, let us embrace the opportunity of the climate crisis. It is creating wonderful and exciting opportunities to improve the way that we run our society.

The way that we produce our energy or transport ourselves about, has had a pollution problem since the industrial revolution, but it is not until there is a climate crisis that we have the will to make the changes.

Look at these thrilling examples of how we can choose to produce our energy or to transport ourselves, which become a possibility only now that we are threatened with catastrophe.

The financial crisis creates opportunities for businesses to innovate and do things better, with less energy, more efficiently and for less money.

It may feel inconvenient to suddenly be pitched into a period where making a living is more challenging, but think of the opportunity, to be more efficient, more effective or to come up with better and more relevant products or services.

Similarly personal crisis gives us the opportunity to review our lives and make changes for the better, to move on from behaviours, beliefs or habits that do not serve us well to new ones that do.

Of course the other option, is to develop a practice of creativity and innovation in our personal lives, our working lives and in our societies that helps us to avoid the crisis altogether.

with love

nx

neil crofts  - coach, consultant, facilitator
Authentic Transformation - join the evolution
UK mobile +44 (0) 7775 658534
neil@authentictransformation.co.uk 
www.authentictransformation.co.uk

Do
Or do not
There is no try

Yoda
 

We are bombarded by the media’s interpretation of success. To be a success, is fawned over and those who are successful are raised up high to be applauded. That is until the media decide to sell a different story, one that tears the successful down to be mocked, jeered or misunderstood. For a “star” to fall, is a great story and one that never fails to sell newspapers. It is upon this concept, that the whole idea of ‘celebrity’ is based.

The very notion of success has been twisted to the extreme and this is counterproductive to those who are aiming for success. This mis-belief that in order to be successful, you have to own a big house or drive a fast car, is misguided and damaging. This implies that success is purely financial, whereas to my thinking, success can be attained in anything you do.

It occurs to me that success is simply the attainment of a goal that you desire. It doesn’t have to be a big goal. The size is irrelevant. How long it takes is irrelevant. Success is not measured by being as successful as someone else, or indeed anyone else. Success is not relative.

Success is quite simply, doing something that you want to complete, and keep doing it, until it is done. You may fail at first and this is quite probable. You may get frustrated. You may feel that you have had enough and begin to consider other things to do. To push on through all of this and complete your task is to have success.

If you have this attitude, then you will be successful in everything you do. If you have not been successful in a while, start with a small task or goal. One step at a time. Set yourself targets that you know will challenge yourself and complete them. The fulfillment you will create for yourself will astound you. Immediately, your self-belief increases, leading you wanting to accomplish bigger goals, exciting goals.

Successful people attract other people. People will approach you with opportunities, as they have confidence in you to help them make the most of it. “Success breeds success” as the saying goes and it all starts with you.

My final thought on this matter, is that the really successful people, are the ones who enjoy the road to success, as much as the success itself.

Warmest wishes,

Dan

Teachers are like buses, I spent years looking for a teacher between my time at Razorfish and when we came to Mallorca and then two show up at once.

Not the kind of teacher you get at school you understand, more like a a “Yoda” figure in my life. Someone who could help me find my better hidden talents and potential.

I was out here for a couple of days last summer, while I was looking for somewhere for our family to live in Mallorca. An estate agent who had built up a bit of a reputation for finding the most off-beat houses, told me that a place had just come on the market that I had to go and see.

I went with the usual mixture of curiosity and hope that attends these viewing and arrived at Can Pujola, a ready made personal development centre. There was a woman sweeping leaves in the garden who greeted me like a long lost friend, and that was Judy.

We connected immediately and since we moved here Judy and I have met every Monday, just after I finish writing these writing these mails, if I am fast enough.

Just after we arrived I decided to run an inspiration evening in our village at Can Pujola. One of the attendees who arrived that evening, a little flustered was David.

David had a phone call about an hour before the event was due to start from a friend who said he had to go to this authentic inspiration thing. It was evening, he had had a busy day and just wanted to go home, but something told him he had to go.

David had quite a breakthrough and bought all three of my print books. David is a chiropractor who practices an evolution of chiropracting called Network Spinal Analysis. Since that day I have run several inspiration events at David’s practice and have visited him regularly for sessions of Network.

These two marvelous teachers are helping me continue to learn and evolve. To make real progress in life it is essential to have a teacher, to stretch us, to hold us to complete honesty and to help us to understand our true potential. After a long drought, I am now fortunate enough to have two.

We have done a few small collaborations, David guested at the Total Potential Retreat and Judy and I guested at an event that David ran in the spring. It was clear from the power of this combination that a fully collaborative event would be spectacular.

And so we came to The PIE Retreat.

PIE stands for Physical, Intellectual, Emotional - the three key levels at which we learn. The PIE Retreat is an intensive learning forum that will propel participants towards their full potential.

The PIE Retreat takes place in Mallorca from the 10-12 October at the simply stunning mountain top monastery, Santuari de Cura. ( You can see the view over Palma above) We would love to welcome you there. For more information and to reserve your place see - www.authentictransformation.co.uk or call +44 (0) 7775 658534.

With love

nx

neil crofts  - coach, consultant, facilitator
Authentic Transformation - join the evolution
UK mobile 07775 658534
neil@authentictransformation.co.uk
 www.authentictransformation.co.uk

Humankind has not woven the web of life.
We are but one thread within it.
Whatever we do to the web, we do to ourselves.
All things are bound together.
All things connect.